Learning How and When To Do The Mature Thing

As someone who grew up having all older siblings that the youngest being ten years my senior I learnt from their mistakes and got the end of the parenting rod. It was looser gripped then theirs, but still as tight as a vice. So I got pretty good at improvising scenarios or getting over small things really fast. But I was also a little tyrant, as the youngest I used the full power of my cuteness to rule the household. Which inevitably would get me into some sort of trouble. It took me up until young adulthood to really understand my place, no not in the world, but my family. Finding my place in the world is still a work in progress, and still is for many in all ages.

My true tell of learning who I am and how I have changed in my life was when I began to change my outreach of friends and who I chose to centralize myself with. Along with the sudden change of how I would react to certain situations. When you are younger your typical reaction is to lash out at or run away from those who are hurting you, this is a sign of immaturity. When one beings to mature, their decisions are more thought out, carefully analyzed, or they already have values and goals that allow them to make that split decision. How to be an adult? Is one of the biggest things I get asked by my friend group, apparently I have it down pact because it looks like with every step I have control and I know what I am doing. Truth is, I am as clueless as you are. But I take that leap, I visualize my goals, and I take small steps that help me get there. I take a look at my self with each situation and ask how can I make my reaction better for the next time around? How can I learn from this? And how can I grow/built myself from this? Each time I do this I am maturing as a person, adding more tools to my belt.

A good example of complex choices is, if you are wanting to go on a vacation, and you have three thousand dollars in your account. You also have a pet or a child (they are mutuality exclusive in this point) and most places you are finding are not child friendly or pet friendly. What's going to be your decision? Yes, you can find a sitter and get them taken care of while you go out and enjoy a full inclusive resort package on your own while spending all of your savings. Or your can be responsible for who you have trusted in your care. Maybe, there is another way to have a fun vacation where the whole family can come! But, this all wraps around to making those mature decision, and knowing what you want and doing what's best. Taking all of those details into account. Can I afford it? Where will the babies go when I'm not around? Do I need this trip right now?

Another part of the process comes into it especially when you are in the worrying phase, and you can't sleep because of all of the unanswered questions. Well, here is something to chew on. At the end of the day, you've made the big decisions, you went to the store, bought those groceries, brought them home, and put them away. When it comes to cooking up the receipt that you're wanting, anything can go wrong. Could be too salty, could get burnt, could have an ingredient that someone doesn't like. But, you're still going to cook, because you need to feed yourself and whoever you have in your care. Because that's the mature thing to do. Take the big steps, the smaller steps will come along as you go. When it comes down from it, learn from those experiences and grow.